10 frequently asked questions of Brides to Be
Whether you’re getting married in a month or a year, chances are you have a lot of questions on your mind! Planning your wedding can be stressful enough without having to worry about figuring it all out for yourself! That’s why we’re here to help ease your mind by answering the 10 most asked questions of brides-to-be.
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1. why should i hire a wedding planner?
At The Butterfly Pavilion, we always recommend our couples hire a wedding planner. Besides helping ensure your day goes flawlessly, they are trained experts in planning weddings, so a lot of stress will be removed from the whole process.
More times than not, wedding planners also know where you can get the best deals, and can actually help you save a lot in the grand scheme of things. On top of saving you money, a wedding planner saves you tons of time, energy, and worry!
Wedding planning can be a very stressful process, and if you’re the one getting married, you’ve got a lot more going on than just the planning. On top of everything else you’re doing, like picking out your dress, bridesmaids luncheons etc., planning your wedding might just add too much to the process of getting married. The last thing you want is to be stressed out for what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life.
2. How early should I start planning my wedding?
You should begin your wedding planning process as early as possible. Depending on how long you’ll be engaged will depend on your planning timeline, but be sure to leave enough time for the important things. It’s definitely better to have too much planning time than not enough!
Pick out your venue a year before the big day. Why so early? The wedding industry moves very fast and many venues take bookings up to two years early and fill up fairly fast, especially for peak wedding months in fall and spring. You can send out your wedding invitations as early as 7-10 months before the big day. This way friends and family will have time to make any arrangements necessary.
Have your dress picked out 4-6 months before the big day so you’ll have time to get accessories and to have any alterations done. Plan your honeymoon 3 months out so you’ll be booked and ready to go. Within 2 months of the wedding day, vendors should be called to set up for flowers, photography, food, and all other details for the big day.
One month before the wedding, focus on yourself. Have your bachelor/bachelorette parties, start a facial routine so your skin is clear and glowing for the big day, and practice your hair and makeup. Of course, hiring a wedding planner helps a ton, but follow this general plan and you’ll be on your way!
3. Should I have a wedding website?
Wedding websites are a relatively new addition to the wedding industry. A wedding website can be a really great thing, as long as it’s used correctly. If you’re going to have a wedding website, it’s important your guests know that’s where they need to go for any updates or information about your wedding and pre-wedding festivities. That also means you’ll need to update your site regularly to keep your guests informed.
Wedding websites can ultimately make things much easier for you and your guests if they’re used correctly. Here, guests can RSVP and your website will be able to keep up with who’s coming in a much more efficient way than you could alone. You can also set up your registry on the website so your guests don’t have to scavenge through multiple platforms to find what they want to give.
There are many more things your wedding website can keep up with, so overall we think having a wedding website is a great idea. However, it’s important that you update your site regularly and that your guests are following along.
4. How do I word my wedding invitations?
Figuring out how you want to word your wedding invitations will depend on the style you’re wanting to give off about your wedding.
If you’re looking to go the formal route, your wedding invitation should sound like this:
“Kindly join us for the wedding of Laura Mann and John Paul on the seventh day of July, two thousand and twenty at six o’clock in the evening.”
A less formal but still elegant invitation style might sound like this:
“Please save the date for the wedding of Laura Mann & John Paul on July 7th, 2020 at 6 o’clock PM.”
A more casual, but still put together invitation will sound like this:
“Celebrate with us at the wedding of Laura Mann & John Paul on July 7th, 2020 at 6:00 PM.”
There are many different ways you can style your wedding invitations according to how you want the tone of your wedding to come across. Check out Pinterest for more wedding invitation ideas!
5. How do I choose a color scheme for my wedding?
Choosing a color scheme for your wedding can be a daunting task, especially if you’ve never even thought about it before. A great way to look up color schemes that you might like is on Pinterest. Simple type in “wedding color schemes” and many results will populate with swatches put together that make for great color combinations. Even better, they have pictures of weddings that have used those color schemes so you can actually see how great it’ll look. Read about how to plan for gorgeous and memorable Spring weddings!
Another fun thing you can do other than looking on the internet, is head to your local hardware store and put some paint swatches together yourself, in person! Once you’ve chosen the colors you want to go with, carry them around in your purse. That way, when you’re shopping for decor, picking out bridesmaids dresses, etc., you can pull them out and make sure that whatever you’re buying matches perfectly with your color scheme!
6. How can I ensure I stay on budget during the planning and preparation of my wedding?
Staying on budget can be hard, especially when planning for a wedding. Yes, this is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life, but we don’t don’t want to break the bank for one day of celebration. Your wedding can still be just as beautiful without splurging on every detail.
Making sure you don’t go over budget can be simpler than you think by sticking to a few important rules. Set practical budgets, leaving yourself a little room for error, that way, if you do go over you won’t feel like you need to throw the whole budget out and just start spending.
If you’re serious about having a budget, you need to stick to it! That means holding yourself accountable, and maybe even having others hold you accountable as well. Give yourself only as much money as you’re willing to spend and WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN. The more you track your spending, the better you’ll be able to keep up with where your money is going, and what you can spend a little more or a little less on.
7. What should I DIY and what should I buy?
It’s true some things should just be left to the experts, which is why this is such a great question. DIY-ing for your wedding day can be a little nerve wracking so you’ll want to keep it in your area of expertise.
If you’re great at graphic design, try making your own wedding invitations. Design them first, then take them to your local print shop to have them professionally printed and cut. In this area of expertise, you could also create your seating chart, place cards, signage, and more!
If you’re into refurbishing furniture, you could DIY your bar, tables, chairs, and decorative furniture pieces. Speaking of decor, if you’re great at DIY-ing more randomized pieces, try doing your detailed decorations. This could mean centerpieces for your tables, decor along the aisle, or even the arch itself! These are great projects to take on for your big day that will save you money!
Some things we recommend you don’t DIY are the flowers, photography, and the music at your wedding. Hire professionals for these details, and unless you personally know someone who does these things for a living, don’t ask friends or family to help with important services that preserve memories or dictate the style of your wedding.
8. What is the best timeline for my wedding day?
The timeline for your wedding day will, of course, depend on when your wedding begins and what all you are including. However we are going to provide you with a wedding day timeline for a typical wedding.
- 10:00-2:30 PM – Bridal party hair and makeup (depends on the number in your party)
- 2:30 PM – Bride gets in dress and puts on final details & reveals to bridal party
- 3:00-4:00 PM – First look (if doing) or bridal party and groomsmen group photos
- 4:00 PM – Bride and groom read vows (if not reading during ceremony)
- 4:30-5:00 PM – Bridal party rests while guests arrive and take their seats
- 5:00-5:30 PM – Wedding ceremony
- 5:30-6:30 PM – Family photos and bride & groom photos
- 6:30-7:00 PM – Cocktail hour while bridal party and groomsmen take photos with bride and groom
- 7:00-8:00 PM – Announce bridal party and have dinner
- 8:00-8:30 PM – Toasts to bride and groom
- 8:30-9:00 PM – First dance, mother-son dance, father-daughter dance, garter dance)
- 9:30-10:15 PM – Dancing and celebrating
- 10:30 PM – Send off
Your wedding day may not follow an exact timeline, but it’s important to note that the ceremony should begin only minutes after the time specified on the invitation.
9. Should I hire a day-of coordinator?
Every wedding should have a day-of coordinator to make sure the day goes by smoothly. As the day begins, the coordinator ensures vendors arrive on time and go to the right places to set up. They can help in setting up decorations and ensure everything looks exactly how you wanted.
During the ceremony, the coordinator keeps everything on time and organized. They make sure everyone is seated before the bridal party walks down the aisle, direct the bridal party to their places, and make sure entrances to the aisle are timed perfectly with the music.
10. How exactly does an open bar work?
Now that the ceremony is over it’s time to celebrate, and what’s a better way to celebrate than with an open bar? Many couples want to have an open bar at their wedding but don’t understand completely how they work.
If you’re unsure of what to include in your open bar, keep it simple! You’ll want to include your typical beers (2-3), a few wines (at minimum a red and white), and the basic liquors and mixers so your bartender can make tons of different cocktails. This combination should ensure that there’s something for everyone.
At The Butterfly Pavilion, our guests’ safety is our number one priority. We require a licensed and insured bar service at any event we host. It’s just the best way to ensure everyone stays safe. We will also have a security officer at the Venue during your event to make sure nothing gets out of hand. You’ll find these are standard features for most wedding venues. For a list of recommended bar services in our area, Contact Us!
Lastly, you’re sure to be wondering what it all adds up to. While we can’t give you that exact answer here, we can tell you that a reputable servicer will help guide you on how much alcohol you should stock, and they can even give you some cost cutting tips. As a ballpark number, you should expect to spend about 20% of your budget on an open bar. It can be expensive, but it’s up to you to decide whether it’s worth it!
At The Butterfly Pavilion, we’re happy to answer any questions you may have before your big day regarding your ceremony/reception.